Al and Tipper Gore splitting the sheets after 40 years??? It seems to be an epidemic these days. Everywhere I turn, people are breaking up. What is going on? Why can't people stay together? What is causing all of this? That is the million dollar question. I would probably have a better chance at winning a powerball ticket than to find the answer to that question... But, I want to know. Did you just recently just break up? Are you in the honeymoon phase of the relationship, a newbie? Or are you in that grey, never never land, wondering whether or not to break up? Where are you? If you just broke up, know that the sun will come out tomorrow and in time your delicate heart will heal. If you are in the honeymoon phase know that in six months the things that you used to find charming and amusing will annoy the hell out of you. And for those if you teetering on the edge wondering what to do ask yourself a few simple questions and this way you can fall back into one of the other categories.
1 When was the last time you heard "I love you" or said "I love you."
2 Do you find ways to get out of spending time with your partner?
3 Does the sound of their voice make you want to scream?
4 Do you try to make them jealous for this is the only way you can get attention?
5 Or are you jealous for they never give you any attention?
6 Do you suspect they are cheating? If they are guarding their cell-phone with their life, not taking calls in front of you, returning calls away from you. Mmm, you do the math.
7 Money- Can you agree on anything about it?
8 Facebook - Now this is a good one. How many breakups is facebook responsible for? What is the subtext behind some of those posts?
9 When you are sick are they there for you or better yet do you want to wait on them hand and foot when they are?
10 Are you fantasizing way too much about being single? Or hot dates with other people?
Hot dates. That's the good news about breaking up. The bad news is that you might have a string of bad dates before the hot one but hold on you will get scorched again and I mean this in the best of ways. Word of advice when going out on a date. Don't interview. Don't fast forward ahead to see if this is someone you could be with. And don't go on about your ex. Do however enjoy the moment without any expectations. Expectations are what probably played a big part of getting you back on the market in the first place. It's hard not to have them but those expectation potato chips get us into a lot of trouble. They fatten us with disillusion, resentments and make us bitter. So let them go and enjoy the moment.
So back to our categories- teeter totters - get to the bottom of it. You could live a life in limbo and that is no fun. Get out of purgatory. Get out of dodge.
Honeymooners- Reality has not yet set in so enjoy. Advice for your future - don't complain about the other person, point fingers and try to change them. They were that way when you met you just chose to gloss over it. Change yourself and you will be amazed how the world will open up for you.
Fresh on the markets - It will get better. Life will improve. It has to. Right?
As for Al and Tipper, 40 years is a nice run. Not a failure but a nice successful run.